Think a minute…An African man who had three wives asked his Irish friend who had only one wife, this question: “Do you like your wife?” His Irish friend replied: “I like her very much!” The African man shook his head and said very sadly: “I don’t like any of mine.” A famous comedian gives this advice to young couples before they get married: “Of course, it’s important to love each other; but if you want to be really happy together, you better LIKE each other.”
Ray Rosa grew up in Italy and came to America as a young man in 1921. There he met and married his wife, Isabel. They settled in a small town where Ray worked as a barber most of his life. Just a few years ago, Isabel became very sick and had to move to a nursing home in a nearby town to live. Ray’s life and daily routine completely changed. Every morning, 7 days a week, he takes a bus to the nursing home where Isabel waits for him in her wheelchair.
They spend the day together and Ray takes care of her. Sometimes he brings his guitar and sings Italian songs for the other sick patients, and gives free haircuts to some of the men there. Then at 5:30 every evening, Ray says goodbye to his wife and catches the bus home. It’s very clear that Ray’s life has become one with his wife’s, so that his life is wherever she is.
That’s real love and happiness. It doesn’t get any better than that. You just can’t fill your heart with real happiness until you give it away to someone else. Jesus Christ teaches that our life is much more blessed and happy when we give more than we receive. Marriage is all about giving and forgiving. It’s living everyday with your best friend for life, so your two lives become one.
Marriage is a decision and commitment you make not just for a few years, but for the rest of your life—no matter what happens. You choose to do all you can for your mate’s happiness, since you realize that’s the only way you’ll be happy yourself. So why not ask Jesus Christ to forgive you for living your own way? Then ask Him to start changing you so you can start enjoying real love with your spouse; because two is definitely better than one—when you really become one. Just Think a Minute…